It's Sunday and you're dropping your kids off in the church nursery. Then, from behind, you hear the dreaded question: "Hey, I've been meaning to ask you! Can you start volunteering for the nursery?"
And your heart sinks. It's not that you don't love kids, but as a mom, you just really would rather volunteer for something else at church. I feel you. As a SAHM, I've always hated this question. Until recently when I realized something about myself and my attitude toward this question.
What about me?
I've always had the attitude that as a SAHM, Sunday mornings are the only time I'm not constantly around my children. Where I can go to Sunday School and Worship and just be an adult. Grow in my walk with God. Without being tugged at and pulled away by a child.
I've always wondered, "Why can't someone else do it and give me a break?!" Why does it always have to be the moms of the congregation that have to work the nursery while everyone else gets to sit in the Worship Service? Why can't the mommies have a break?
It does work that way in some churches, but it seems that most have this same issue. Parents of the littles are the only ones who volunteer in the nursery and many just do it because no one else will and their children need somewhere else to go than to the service to be disruptive.
The question again
We moved and just joined a new church a few months ago. I was approached with this question the week after we joined about 3 months ago. I had that immediate reaction I've always had. Ugh, not again.
This time was a little different because we were trying to get our kids accustomed to a new church and it was hard to drop off our oldest alone. So I said we would look at doing it after we got them adjusted.
And I wrestled with this for a while. I really wanted some me time. I really wanted to be able to go to service and not the nursery every 8 weeks. Why couldn't some one else step up for the hurting volunteer group and let us moms enjoy the service?
But then God showed me something about myself
One day, He showed me that it's not about ME. It's about HIS Kingdom. Yes, I wanted a break, but in volunteering every 8 weeks, I was giving another mom a break.
I was filling a hole that enables another mom who has been volunteering for 3 years every 4-6 weeks because of the shortage of volunteers an extra Sunday or 2 to go to service.
In all honesty, even if I wanted to volunteer for something else at church, I can't. As a SAHM, I always have my kids with me. And if there's not childcare available at that time, most likely I can't do it. I feel strongly that I should be helping out at our church by any means I can, and right now with small children, this is the easiest thing for me to do.
This is just how I feel. There are arguments on each side as to why the parent's of the kids in the nursery should or shouldn't be volunteering. But regardless of any of that, I found that it was my selfish reasoning that lead me to know God wanted me to change my heart.
So in the end, I can volunteer 6-7 times a year in the church nursery to give another mom a longer break between when she has to volunteer again to lighten the load. I can still go to Sunday School and then spend an hour and 15 minutes with a group of 2 year olds a handful of times a year so another mommy gets a longer break.