Mommy Can’t Go To Bed Early

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As I sit writing this, it is exactly 9:58 pm. My kids have been in bed since 8:15 pm and my husband at 9:30 pm. It’s getting late and my alarm is set for 6 am so I can have devotional time and prep our homeschool activities for the day along with any household chores I can sneak in before the kids wake up.

I should be in bed. My head should be on my pillow and my eyes should be closed. Dreamland should be in full force. So why am I still awake after my entire family is in bed???





There, I said it. I’m not ashamed one bit. My days are long. I get up and the ball is moving and doesn’t stop until everyone goes to bed.

I’m a SAHM. And now I homeschool as well. Between homeschool, homemaking, running a website and Etsy shop, changing diapers and potty training, feeding growing children, etc, there aren’t many quiet moments in my day.

Sure, the toddler takes a 2ish hour nap and I’ve started making the preschooler take an hour or so nap halfway through little brother’s nap because he’s just cranky if not. But that 1 hour of blessed naptime is usually filled with various chores, dinner prep, or adult duties like paying bills and making appointments.

So in the late hours of the evening, mommy can have quiet. Blessed quiet. No one pulling at me, asking for the 10th time for a snack while I am physically making a meal. Just blessed quiet. Right now the only sounds I hear are my keyboard as I type away, the hum of the ceiling fan, and the occasional overhead plane flying by.



In all seriousness, I probably do need more sleep. And on occasion, I will go to bed earlier than 11 pm. But most of the time, Mommy needs some decompression time.

And if that means I increase the Keurig setting from 8oz to 12oz the next morning, so be it. I love coffee. And a little extra around 2-3 in the afternoon is a welcome “snack” for mommy.

Sometimes I read, sometimes I watch a show (or 3) on Netflix. I will watch a sermon or do a devotional. Other times, I wash dishes or clothes or do some clean up.

Even though I’m tired and keep up with the house throughout the day as well, I can get them done in a fraction of the time after everyone goes to bed. I don’t have someone stopping me every 5 seconds needing something or wanting to talk or needing an owie kissed so sometimes I don’t mind doing household chores if it means it takes me 10 minutes to do instead of 30.


It’s my ME time


I have learned in my 4.5 years of being a mother that I am a really cranky person when I don’t have alone time. I’m an introvert by nature. Introverts need their alone time to feel right in the world.

Which is incredibly important for me as a SAHM. When I was a working mom, I had a 25-30 minute morning commute to work and anywhere from 40 minutes to up to a 2 hour commute home with traffic.

Those moments in the car were my alone time. I didn’t stay up late back in those days.

But now as a SAHM, I don’t have that alone time in the car. I’m lucky some days if I get any alone time at all. So staying up an hour or 2 after everyone else goes to bed is extremely worth it to me.


I mean, God made coffee for a reason, right?? 🙂


Mommy Can't Go To Bed Early... But that's why God made coffee, right?



Mommy Can't Go To Bed Early... But that's why God made coffee, right?




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    1. Yes! It is so worth it! I do make sure to try and get a good amount of sleep some nights, but those late night hours are so peaceful!

  1. I know exactly how you feel. My husband always says, “Aren’t you going to bed?”…
    He knows I’m tired but doesn’t understand why I “make” myself stay up layer then everyone else. And YES, the coffee helps! 😉

    1. Yes, husbands don’t seem to get it! Mine is always getting on to me about getting more sleep, but getting 6-7 hours of sleep versus 8 in order to have some down time is totally worth an extra couple oz of coffee the next morning!

    1. Awesome! I’m excited for those days to come, but I don’t want them to grow up too quickly! It’s such an internal struggle, lol.

    1. It does feel oh so good! And I know one day my kids will be older and I’ll only do this for a short while in the grand scheme of things.

  2. I was just thinking this last night! My husband came home just drenched in sweat from working all day, took a shower, ate, fell asleep on the couch at 8. Kids all in bed at 8:30. Me- up until 11:30 doing laundry, cleaning floors, bathrooms, and having my coffee my coffee drink on the back patio listening to the…..silence….😊

  3. There’s a time each day, sometimes in the morning sometimes right before bed where I tell everyone they cannot talk to me. I am invisible. It’s so nice to have quiet time whatever time it is!

    1. That’s awesome, lol! My youngest is 21 months so it’s sometimes hard to be “invisible”, but I have been known to lock myself in the bathroom or closet for a minute while they are playing to recompose myself!

  4. This is why my kids still have quiet time in the afternoon even though naps are rare and why I have everyone in their rooms by 730pm – even the nearly 9 year old! My husband doesn’t get home from work until closer to 830pm so I usually have an hour to finish up the last of the daily stuff and then relax and do what I want. I still stay up late because it’s my only time with the hubby but at least I get a little before he’s home and then again in the morning before everyone is awake. Alone time is so precious!

    1. Good for you getting everyone to bed early! I’m all about early bedtimes for the kids, they’re less grumpy that way because they wake up at 7am no matter what time they go to bed!

  5. Lol! While I don’t really recommend skimping on sleep, I SO get why as introverts we really need that peace and quiet time! I still have all my kids – even my near-teens – take an afternoon rest so that I can function through the rest of the day. I just need a bit of time where I don’t see people milling about the house! Thanks for sharing – loved this post!

    1. Thanks for stopping by! I am lucky that my kids all sleep through the night so that even if I go to bed at midnight, they don’t wake up until 7 or so. That way I still get 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Things were definitely much different when the littlest was still waking 3+ times a night!

  6. This is my life right now! I do contract work, run my devotional blog, am writing a book, and stay at home with the kids…evening time = work time! I enjoy the chaos and that I get to be with the kids during the day even though it means my life is crazy. Wouldn’t change it. 🙂

    1. Yes! I love the chaos too (weird, I know!), but those quiet moments when everyone is in bed are so amazing at the same time.

  7. This is me, too! I am the last to bed and first to wake because it is the only alone time I have. I wish I did something like read a novel or perform yoga, but I just do more work. But it’s quiet! It’s so quiet!

    1. Yes, introverted me can get a little overstimulated through the day with 2 rambunctious boys. Quiet time is such a blissful time!

    1. Lol! Sometimes, I’m up late scrolling through Pinterest and not realizing I’ve been on there for an hour! #sorrynotsorry

  8. I’m on the other side of this truth, and I still can’t get enough quiet time! You’re doing what you need to do for yourself, and that does wonders for the rest of your family too. Here’s to a day when they sleep in a bit longer – maybe?!

    1. Yes! It’s like the old adage “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”. Cranky mom = cranky kids so it’s best if I can get at least 30 minutes of quiet time a day!

  9. I am the same way!! I need the down time to feel like an adult. Just having a thought I finish seems good some days. I want to enjoy my time with children so I need the quiet moments. I’m convinced it makes me a better mom. Even if I am a little more tired because of it..

    1. The quiet time definitely makes me a better mom! I can handle a little tired, especially after 2 children 2.5 years apart from each other. But cranky. Nobody likes cranky mom, lol!

    1. Lol! Yes, quiet time is the best. I’m not a morning person though, so I stay up late instead of getting up really early. 6am is usually the earliest I can set my alarm, maybe because when I worked I had to get up anywhere from 4:45-5:30 every morning!

  10. I can relate to this so well, except it’s my main writing/work time. It’s awful though because I’m really a morning person. I wish I could get up earlier than my daughter to do work instead but guess what? She’s a morning person, too. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve been awake before her in the past several months.

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